SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING BORROWED

Hey bluebloods, It’s an evening POSH moment today, been swamped with quite a lot but haven’t gotten to do much- quite an irony, right? I hope your week was great, mine was…some answered prayers. Today I want to talk about something old, something new, something borrowed…

So, I’ve been thinking, what really is letting go? If I were to sit in my "royal seat" and judge, I would say, it’s as simple as deciding that something is not good for you and moving on but as reality has rained on me, it’s never that easy, although the person telling you to, makes it sound just that way. It may just be a bad habit like my strange love for POLO sweet which is not good for consumption every day or something as grave as the loss of a loved one, whatever the case is, it’s hard to let go but that’s not what I want to dwell on…the fact that it’s hard.

The truth is that although it’s a slow and painful process with a thousand knives carefully finding their way through your heart and your feet feeling like they are stuck in the mud, you can let go, anytime you feel like, especially since in this case, it’s the best thing for you to do. The process is pretty long, it starts from denial, you hear you trying to re-assure yourself that nothing is wrong and you try hard to convince yourself that it’s not what it seems…but it is. Then you start to get angry, mostly at yourself because you are asking yourself the victim question, “why me?” It must have happened to you for a reason (a good one at that), trust me, it’s best to look at it from that point of view so that you don’t end up a self-pitying lunatic (very true, it can mess with your psyche). The most important part is when you ACCEPT that this is something you have to deal with, we all have to deal with something at some point. That my dear, is the beginning of the journey to recovery and sometimes, self-discovery. It’s a hard process but to taste how sweet the corn is you have to heat it up first.

This piece inspires me and speaks to me in some way and I hope it does same or more for you. Life, my darling blue-bloods is not meant to be endured and is not meant to look like a video in which a rat is helplessly looking for a way out, and come to think of it, you are not a rat… (No offence to the animal kingdom). You know the surprising thing...most of the time, we hold the keys to our escape.

Remember, enjoy the moment…too many beautiful things happening to pass up on…

Loads of love…xoxo.

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ARISTOCRATS' DIGEST

Hey blue bloods, 

I don’t have much to say today but I would love to share something that comes right from my heart.

* Never ever let anyone make you believe that you are what you are not. Translation- don’t give anyone the license to cheapen your existence including your personal achievements, your attitude (not excusing bad attitude here though). In essence, things that make you, you.

* Always take your time, keep walking and stop running. I’m not saying you should lack pro-activity, I’m saying most importantly, go at your own pace and don’t be in a hurry. You’ll be happy you did.

*Don’t pay the price for what you did not bargain for but whenever you decide to get a package, it is your responsibility to go with whatever the package contains. You can’t claim ignorance for something you asked for, consciously and most times unconsciously, you can only deal with it.

*Be as observant as you can be. It is necessary for survival. 

*Lastly, be in love with yourself (not cocky and ‘badly selfish’), you may find out nobody else loves you more than you do. So, do what you want to do, express your desires and do what makes you happy. Be happy to escort whoever is not in for the ride, off the bus- probably wasn’t meant to be there anyway. Besides, you will be making space for someone who would love the tour.

Loads of love my darling aristocrats, have a wonderful week and as always enjoy the moments. It’s a bright day for me, with loads of possibilities and I hope it is for you too.
P.S: I would be looking forward to reading about your perspectives.

Xoxo…

SOMETHING EXTRA...FROM ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE

Hello blue bloods...I know it's been two weeks already and no word from me, I apologise. Just like everyone out there has, is doing and will do, I have moved on to another phase in life...quite eventful I might add. My post is a bit early today but I've missed out on the aristocratic fun and wouldn't want to let this POSH Saturday slip by. I hope your week wasn't as daunting, anyway what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

You know a fortnight ago I shared my thoughts with you on SOMETHING EXTRA and remember on SPICING IT UP, I said there would be topics I have talked about but from another perspective. The debut of that "spice" is today. So, plop down on your couch, put your feet up, and peruse something extra...from another perspective.

"Hello blue-bloods, welcome to another POSH aristocratic Saturday. It’s really good to wind down after a stressful week, which I believe most of us have had. Oh my, how the week went by swiftly. Take your shoes off and kick back because we are going to relax as we talk about some serious issues.
I am of the point of view that when relating to people the way you are with one person differs with the other, this should not be used to value your relationship nor am I talking about privileges you give to those you are romantically involved with. I’m simply saying that some people are capable of smothering you with attention while others are not capable of any attention...people from different backgrounds and upbringing should not be forced to be what they are not, so it is necessary to know your friends, understand and love them as they are… Accommodation is key in all relationships and this rule must apply both in romantic relations and otherwise, it’s not about making sure your love is tit for tat, it's a about finding someone that is compatible with you or finding your own way to accommodate a person, again depending on your own nature. No relationship can be exact in terms of love given and received but if you learn to accept people, you learn that in your inequality you’d find an acceptable balance."- Anonymous

When I read this perspective, I was wow'ed by it. It's very refreshing to see something from another perspective- broadens your horizon, makes you see the world through different lenses. Of course, you don't have to agree with every other perspective but it would be great to see from one other than yours.

Remember to live your life for yourself and responsibly, enjoy the moments, your relationships, the cool breeze, the sunny day, the home cooked meal...We are not guaranteed a tomorrow, we only hope for one and pray for many. Loads of love....xoxo.