AND...IT'S A WRAP

Hello Blue bloods, Compliments of the season, hope you had a POSH Christmas? I'm so thankful we made it to the last Saturday and POSH moment of 2013! Thanks for your time and support from the get-go.

So I've learnt a lot, I'm sure we all have, but these are my top three lessons of 2013;

* Never say never.
* Life is very individualistic, therefore, comparing yourself to another is like a lion asking himself why he is not a leopard.
* Your happiness counts most of all...
These and many more I have learnt in the course of the year, have made me less judgmental about people or situations. Ponder on these and make sure 2014 counts for you. Here's a poem, IT ALL HAPPENS IN LIFE, composed by one of our POSH readers, Joel, author of FOREVER AND A YEAR MORE.

It all happens in life,

Disappointments and falls,

Strong, pick yourself up

Weak, keep falling.

It all happens in marriages,

Arguments and fights,

Strong, make it work

Weak, make it flop.

It all happens in dreams,

Dreamlands and nightmares,

Strong, dream greater and further,

Weak, wake up from the slumber.

It all happens with you,

Success and failure,

Strong, its up to you

Weak, still up to you.

It's funny how we could be the cause yet the solution to our challenges, and as always, the choice is ultimately ours. I wish us all a prosperous 2014, dream big, work hard and expect the best. 

Loads of love darling aristocrats. Cheers to the future!

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DON'T PASS THE BULK!

Hey blue bloods, how was your week? Mine was great…got to learn new things. I hope yours was too. 11 days to Christmas…yay! I remember when I was younger and it was all about the food, the hair and the decorations. Now, it’s about spending time with the people I love and ultimately, the One who loves me. We shall be discussing a topic which I feel we can all relate to…or most of us. Kick back and enjoy.

In my short life, I have wondered why I get frustrated making some people around me happy. You know when you jump to the rescue (Superman/woman), wanting to be there for a dying friend, sick colleague…just show you that you have their back…not that it’s a bad thing, it just needs to be managed because there’s just that likeliness inside us that tends to take advantage of or take for granted. In the past week I have listened to one of my favourite teachers and I have started to realise the bulk is not on me.

Have you ever been at that point where you feel like no matter what you do, it’s not just enough? Or you end up with the shorter end of the stick? Another teacher of mine said, “Be careful of high maintenance people, no matter what you do, it’s never enough.” You have to know just like I know now that we are not responsible for other people’s happiness. You can make someone happy but you are not responsible for keeping the person happy. That my love, is a function of choice and not the equivalent of love like we misunderstand. So do what you can but don’t let someone give you grief because they aren’t being responsible for their happiness. They most likely have other deep seated issues which they have to sort out first and they will suck the happiness out of you in that contagious mood swing. Sometimes, it’s good to be there from a distance.

I’m not trying to discredit some of us that are dependent on other people to make us happy. I was there once and I did not feel free until I realised that me being happy was a function of me deciding to be happy. In effect, I became less disappointed in people. We all go through stuff (if that’s the excuse you are about to throw in my face)…we’ll all go through more stuff and life is too short. So take your pick? Option A- Live your life, constantly being sad and frustrating others around you or Option B- Seize life and be happy.

Remember, enjoy the moments, every day is a gift from God. Have a great weekend.
Loads of love blue bloods…xoxo

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SETTLING...

Hullo darling blue bloods, how was your week? Mine swept by but doesn’t it always? Reminds me of that rhyme, “Tick, says the clock, tick, tick, what you have to do, do quick!” Thank you for taking time out to read this, it’s good to know that there are POSH minds everywhere.

Just a small story to guide us into our main discussion. Yesterday, as I was getting ready to go out, I saw the ducks and swans come out of the lake and as usual were looking for what to eat, I had fed the ducks before but not the swans so I looked up at the digestive biscuits I had on my shelf and thought to share. I broke one piece in two and threw them out my window, one of the swans just passed by it; I threw a whole piece, the other swan just walked over it, I began to think, “These swans are too POSH for this biscuit”. It looked like the ducks got wind of the windfall (pardon my pun) and then started coming towards that area, so I broke the biscuits into pieces before throwing them out. To my surprise, duck and swan alike as well as surrounding flying birds came to party. I said to myself, “Oh Swan, I thought you didn’t do biscuits.” LOL. That’s not my main point, another shocker was that they kept accepting the pieces that I threw from the window but as I write, the whole piece of biscuit is still there. Throughout that period, they all stepped on it, passed by it...and their heads were down most of the time looking for something to eat. Thinking they could hear me, I kept screaming, “there’s one down there, see that biscuit” and the next duck walked over it. I gave up at some point…I had somewhere to be.

I’m sure by now you get my drift, they settled for less...pieces…some of them even fought for one of the many pieces. Meanwhile, there was a whole biscuit just waiting to be found but kept on getting walked over or passed by. I likened myself to the Creator and thought, maybe this is how He watches in amazement at how we make poor choices for ourselves. Settling for the pieces, when there is that one whole biscuit just for you. I can almost bet that that piece would be there for the next week. We have many talents, relationships, ideas that would fetch us happiness, satisfaction and most likely be an answered prayer but I think as humans, we tend to clutch to fragments of what’s left and we fight for the scraps that someone hands down to us and feel that the person is even being gracious to us. You deserve more, I deserve more, We deserve more. Don’t be content with the scraps, why beg for water when you have access to the fountain?

Tap into that talent, reach into and out of yourself, find that God-given deposit in you and be the next game changer just like Nelson Mandela- the definition of a fruitful tree. RIP Madiba (1918-2013).

Remember to enjoy the simple moments, they only last for so long. I love you all…xoxo

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