THE E.N.D

Hey blue bloods,

How's your day going? So, I wanted to share something with you that could push us one step closer to the aristocracy we desire. The aristocratic fragrance I could call it. On a daily basis, we get to meet a lot of people- face-to-face, social media etc., and we come in contact with a wide range of personalities- some good, some bad and some downright ugly. We even find out that the people we talk to everyday, give a different personality ooze, every other day. In the past and truthfully, up until now, I've struggled with personality conflicts with myself and with people I have come to know. One day, someone who is all over you and establishes the "best-buds" notion in your head becomes "stand-off'ish" the next day, that can be quite confusing and in some cases, it hurts that you can't depend on the constancy of some emotions from people you are close to. 

Normally, when I fly, I get the jitters when there's some degree of turbulence. Apart from the realisation that air is rather abstract and is not tarred or made of concrete like land which is enough to trigger these jitters, I always asked, "why can't we just have a smooth glide through and just land?" Then, one day, it hit me, change is really the only constant thing. Why there is a change is easy and at the same time hard to tell most of the time, but things and people do change, whether you want them to or not. So at some point, you have got to expect it, especially with humans and that's because there's a range of emotions a person gets exposed to each day and that really affects the aura they give, depending on the thought and attitude pattern of the person involved.

I came up with three facts that I feel could get us through changes which at the E.N.D of the day are inevitable. I tag them the E.N.D to always questioning that change that happens in life and people:

1. Everyone's opinion is theirs and each person including you, is entitled to have one, some, many (it's a sub-section of the fundamental human rights)... but just because they voiced it, tweeted it, posted it or acted it, doesn't mean you have to swallow it hook, line and sinker. After all, it's not yours, it's theirs. You can disagree with it but you don't have to shut them up or down because of it, totally a waste of your time since it results in arguments or as we best know now, tweet-fights and for those who aren't verbally able to stand up for themselves, it's bullying.

2. Never be bothered about what people say about you especially when it's not constructive, including your "friends". I'm not saying that you should shun good advice, emphasis on good  but like we have come to discover, there are just those people, hmmph! Those people who are like ticks, that seem to just have a knife and fork ready to dissect, be it your words or actions. Most times, they are intimidated by whatever you do or whoever you are- always in constant competition with you (just hyping you more...You know, some people have all but words, they actually think what they say hold water and add to your life at that point in time but those are the people I care for cos they are just delusional and seem to need some sort of attention cos there's a vacuum, in there, somewhere and bashing other people is how they get by. It's just like someone arguing that a Beetle is better than a Bentley- the expert shrinks have to be involved or there's some gi-normous absence of taste. You know when someone is speaking like they got you all figured out, yet they have not the slightest clue). By the way, people always have something negative to say... just check out some comments on Linda Ikeji's blog, even when it's good news, you can not but wonder. They cheapen your success stories and make your achievements look like an ordinary feat, ask yourself, "if they were so good, why don't they have similar success stories". Most of the time, you discover that this set of people have nothing good or nothing at all going on for themselves, so the negativism is like retail therapy.

3. Do not be sensitive. This is by far the most valuable to me. I'm quite emotional but even emotionally detached people tend to break at this point in time. You know those biting words or remarks meant to make you feel stupid like discussed earlier would be made, sometimes even by you to someone else. The best thing to do is just have the tortoise's back... let it roll over. Some people even say things to you to "encourage" you. For example; your friend says, you are just an NFA (someone with no future ambition), probably because he/she has noticed some lax tendencies in you. What I try to do in times like that is just extract the positivism from the statement and use it.

Aristocrats survive not because they have some in-built negativism repellent but because they realise and understand that what makes you you is on your inside, not what people have to say about you or how they act towards you. We don't even totally understand ourselves, yet we are the best story-tellers of ourselves, so why let some wannabe story-teller of you get to you?

Stay blue-blooded...xoxo