THE ORIGINAL

Hey Blue Bloods! How was your week? And the week before? It’s been a tremendously busy fortnight for me. Loads of work, work and more work! I guess that comes with the ‘responsibility of age’ which is inevitable… that’s not my focus today though.

I want to share my thoughts on ‘the original’ or originality. Now, I’m not talking about Klaus, Elijah or Rebecca…LOL! (For those of you who get my drift). In my small length of life, I may have gained ‘vast’ experience, some of which are not self-experienced but are stories of the lives of those I know and those I do not know. It surprises me how the life of everyone is so unique, even the lives of those connected by blood. For instance, I and my brother are two extremely different people. It took me sometime to resonate with how he didn’t do things my way and I love him so much for that. I am reserved but people who are very familiar with me know that there’s a ‘genie trapped in a bottle’ inside of me. Well, I think everyone has that ‘genie’, but the nature of our ‘genies’ are different.

What’s my point in all of this? I’ve noticed that we live in a world where we try to follow glamour and some of us don’t realise that there’s something that smile hides- someone trapped in insecurity, fear or uncertainty. We think we want what the ‘real’ people have, but you know what they say, “Real people have real problems” and some people that we want to be are actually shadows of their real selves. So, before you wish to be that person? Stop to think, “Will I be comfortable having the problems they have?” I am not saying we shouldn’t have people whose positive behaviour we want to emulate. I’m saying, we should aspire to be us. Yes, we may not like our flaws, who does? But, our flaws make us who we are and like it or not, those flaws are designed in a unique way to fit our unique purpose. All we just have to do is develop ourselves for the better.

I heard this from a great man, “You can’t love anyone better than you love yourself” and wherever you go, there will always be one person around you and that is YOU. So, embrace YOU because YOU would always be YOU.

Have a great weekend my fellow Aristocrats. Till we share again. Remember it’s all about the attitude. Live, love and enjoy the moment…xoxo.

THE RESOLUTION...

Hello Blue Bloods, Happy New Year! I hope you caught up on loads of fun. Fortunately (I would say), it’s back to work, or school and back to making sure those New Year resolutions work.

Like I stated in my last post, I have luggage of lessons learnt in the past year and looking back, I would say "I am not the same person" I was 365 days ago, I am not “there” yet but I have taken a number of steps. Like all New Year resolutions we make, we end up not keeping a large percentage of them or maybe the whole thing. Then, we begin to lose ourselves to depression and that sense of failure that comes lurking. Well, next time it comes, just say “Been there, done that”, and move on. After all, what did those feelings do for you? If not make you feel bad and hopeless. The trick is, it doesn’t have to be termed a New Year Resolution. On the evening of the 31^st, my mum asked me, “What’s the difference between today and tomorrow?” I answered wittily, “Well, today is 2013 and tomorrow is 2014.” Later, when I thought about it, I realised there actually isn’t much difference. It’s the same amount of hours and seconds that will go by, it was also a Tuesday and the next day (The New Year) would be another Wednesday.

Now, I am not underestimating the need to set goals for ourselves in this new season but there are a number of things I want to draw out from the above narrative. First, we do not have to wait till a New Year to do and “undo” something. Second, let’s say we have a resolution in place already, if we didn’t keep it, we don’t have to wait till 1^st January, 2015 to get back on track. Third, we don’t have to feel bad because we didn’t keep it, whether we made this resolution on the 1^st of January or the 20^th of June, there is a common denominator and that is determination.

With that being said, we shouldn’t spend our lives in regret of what we didn’t achieve yesterday, there’s always today, to do and “undo”. Every day, we are given the gift of another chance, to start afresh, on a clean slate but the challenge is most of us stay in the past, clutching on to it, ever so tightly. What we all need is determined determination and a forward perspective.

Loads of love and I pray we achieve all and more than we set to achieve. Enjoy the moment…Xoxo.

Many thanks to Mebrock for hooking me up with this new POSH wallpaper.

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