BEING UNIQUE...MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND

(At about this time, I would think that I’m done typing anything, spent most of my time typing in the past week). Hello my darling blue bloods, don’t mind me, I’ve been really busy for about a fortnight now and that’s the last time you heard from me. Hope your fortnight has been good? Well, it’s a juicy topic today, okay, you decide that for yourself. Thanks for taking out time to read this.

Have you found yourself in a situation or a bunch of situations where you are in the front-row premium class seat watching your life play out before you? Many characters - some are extras, some just show up and snatch the lead roles (duration depends), some are like a blast from the past (good or bad, and they come when you least expect it), some are the main characters and you are the man/lady of the show. I have found myself in this position for the past few months and I’ve been amazed at how much of myself I have discovered- my flaws look like they are in 3D, and you know the funniest part is that you can’t avoid you, it's even more difficult when you play the 'audience' role (you know how quick we are to judge, like, "Oh 'Thor' didn't really flex his muscles in this movie." The most amazing part is that I have just been myself and embraced myself more than ever before, I can’t remember a point in my life where I have felt this comfortable and happy with my uniqueness even with those '3D flaws'. It’s not all smiles and rose petals all the way but I get this ‘Oh, really!’ moment almost every day as I unfold like a flower blooming in summer and I believe every day I become more beautiful (Forgive my ‘pride’).

I know at this point you are wondering, “What’s her point?” Voila! My point is just enjoy being you, feel comfortable in your skin. These words sound a dime a dozen but they are very true. We all weren’t meant to be perfect, if we were, there would be no room for mistakes, if there was no room for mistakes, there would be no room for self-discovery or recovery, if there was no room for self-discovery or recovery, there would be no uniqueness, if there was no uniqueness, there would be no variety and if there was no variety, life would be plain b-o-r-i-n-g! You are weird, so what? Who isn’t? Just imagine a world full of just you…it would be so weird, right? LOL.

Have a wonderful POSH Saturday my fellow aristocrats…Enjoy the moment and enjoy YOU…xoxo

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FOREVER AND A YEAR MORE

Hey blue bloods, it's another POSH afternoon. Hope your week has been great? Welcome to November and Happy Belated Birthday to my POSH editor and all "Novie celebs". Speaking of, we are almost done with 2013...how quick?! We have a feature today, something quite different from what we are used to (I'm happy some of you are truly SPICING IT UP...keep it coming :) )

Poetry is good for the soul, it could be therapeutic, it could be a message, it could be funny, it could make you reflect...it serves many purposes, so sit back, relax and enjoy this debut poem from one of us...

I know I’ll be scared this day,

Looking down that well-laid flowered pathway,

Thinking, is this the right choice?

Will it last forever?

Or should I wait a year more?

I know I’ll be scared this minute,

One step at a time,

Feeling like the whole world’s shaking under me,

And then I ask myself,

Is this how it’s supposed to feel?

Should I be confused?

Or should I wait a year more?

I know I should be scared this second,

But when I look straight up to her gleaming eyes,

Her wonderfully crafted smile,

I tell myself,

She has always been the right choice,

And it will definitely last forever and a year more.

                                                                                    -Joel

Reading this poem again...and again, made me realise something...reflect and decide what this means to you and remember to have fun and enjoy the seemingly simple stuff.

Loads of love....xoxo.

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SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING BORROWED

Hey bluebloods, It’s an evening POSH moment today, been swamped with quite a lot but haven’t gotten to do much- quite an irony, right? I hope your week was great, mine was…some answered prayers. Today I want to talk about something old, something new, something borrowed…

So, I’ve been thinking, what really is letting go? If I were to sit in my "royal seat" and judge, I would say, it’s as simple as deciding that something is not good for you and moving on but as reality has rained on me, it’s never that easy, although the person telling you to, makes it sound just that way. It may just be a bad habit like my strange love for POLO sweet which is not good for consumption every day or something as grave as the loss of a loved one, whatever the case is, it’s hard to let go but that’s not what I want to dwell on…the fact that it’s hard.

The truth is that although it’s a slow and painful process with a thousand knives carefully finding their way through your heart and your feet feeling like they are stuck in the mud, you can let go, anytime you feel like, especially since in this case, it’s the best thing for you to do. The process is pretty long, it starts from denial, you hear you trying to re-assure yourself that nothing is wrong and you try hard to convince yourself that it’s not what it seems…but it is. Then you start to get angry, mostly at yourself because you are asking yourself the victim question, “why me?” It must have happened to you for a reason (a good one at that), trust me, it’s best to look at it from that point of view so that you don’t end up a self-pitying lunatic (very true, it can mess with your psyche). The most important part is when you ACCEPT that this is something you have to deal with, we all have to deal with something at some point. That my dear, is the beginning of the journey to recovery and sometimes, self-discovery. It’s a hard process but to taste how sweet the corn is you have to heat it up first.

This piece inspires me and speaks to me in some way and I hope it does same or more for you. Life, my darling blue-bloods is not meant to be endured and is not meant to look like a video in which a rat is helplessly looking for a way out, and come to think of it, you are not a rat… (No offence to the animal kingdom). You know the surprising thing...most of the time, we hold the keys to our escape.

Remember, enjoy the moment…too many beautiful things happening to pass up on…

Loads of love…xoxo.

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ARISTOCRATS' DIGEST

Hey blue bloods, 

I don’t have much to say today but I would love to share something that comes right from my heart.

* Never ever let anyone make you believe that you are what you are not. Translation- don’t give anyone the license to cheapen your existence including your personal achievements, your attitude (not excusing bad attitude here though). In essence, things that make you, you.

* Always take your time, keep walking and stop running. I’m not saying you should lack pro-activity, I’m saying most importantly, go at your own pace and don’t be in a hurry. You’ll be happy you did.

*Don’t pay the price for what you did not bargain for but whenever you decide to get a package, it is your responsibility to go with whatever the package contains. You can’t claim ignorance for something you asked for, consciously and most times unconsciously, you can only deal with it.

*Be as observant as you can be. It is necessary for survival. 

*Lastly, be in love with yourself (not cocky and ‘badly selfish’), you may find out nobody else loves you more than you do. So, do what you want to do, express your desires and do what makes you happy. Be happy to escort whoever is not in for the ride, off the bus- probably wasn’t meant to be there anyway. Besides, you will be making space for someone who would love the tour.

Loads of love my darling aristocrats, have a wonderful week and as always enjoy the moments. It’s a bright day for me, with loads of possibilities and I hope it is for you too.
P.S: I would be looking forward to reading about your perspectives.

Xoxo…

SOMETHING EXTRA...FROM ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE

Hello blue bloods...I know it's been two weeks already and no word from me, I apologise. Just like everyone out there has, is doing and will do, I have moved on to another phase in life...quite eventful I might add. My post is a bit early today but I've missed out on the aristocratic fun and wouldn't want to let this POSH Saturday slip by. I hope your week wasn't as daunting, anyway what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

You know a fortnight ago I shared my thoughts with you on SOMETHING EXTRA and remember on SPICING IT UP, I said there would be topics I have talked about but from another perspective. The debut of that "spice" is today. So, plop down on your couch, put your feet up, and peruse something extra...from another perspective.

"Hello blue-bloods, welcome to another POSH aristocratic Saturday. It’s really good to wind down after a stressful week, which I believe most of us have had. Oh my, how the week went by swiftly. Take your shoes off and kick back because we are going to relax as we talk about some serious issues.
I am of the point of view that when relating to people the way you are with one person differs with the other, this should not be used to value your relationship nor am I talking about privileges you give to those you are romantically involved with. I’m simply saying that some people are capable of smothering you with attention while others are not capable of any attention...people from different backgrounds and upbringing should not be forced to be what they are not, so it is necessary to know your friends, understand and love them as they are… Accommodation is key in all relationships and this rule must apply both in romantic relations and otherwise, it’s not about making sure your love is tit for tat, it's a about finding someone that is compatible with you or finding your own way to accommodate a person, again depending on your own nature. No relationship can be exact in terms of love given and received but if you learn to accept people, you learn that in your inequality you’d find an acceptable balance."- Anonymous

When I read this perspective, I was wow'ed by it. It's very refreshing to see something from another perspective- broadens your horizon, makes you see the world through different lenses. Of course, you don't have to agree with every other perspective but it would be great to see from one other than yours.

Remember to live your life for yourself and responsibly, enjoy the moments, your relationships, the cool breeze, the sunny day, the home cooked meal...We are not guaranteed a tomorrow, we only hope for one and pray for many. Loads of love....xoxo.

SOMETHING EXTRA

Hello blue-bloods, welcome to another POSH aristocratic Saturday. It’s really good to wind down after a stressful week, which I believe most of us have had. Oh my, how the week went by swiftly. Sit back, take off your shoes and pop them on the stool because we are going to relax, yet talk about serious issues.

There’s something that I have noticed over the years in relationships, I do not mean only the romantic ones but in the platonic ones as well, most of the time, misunderstandings happen and when you examine the root cause, it’s mostly because one person feels taken for granted or that the other person is not “trying” enough in the relationship. Recently, I talked to someone who felt that since he didn’t like visiting a lot, his partner was supposed to always come to visit him but since I was a witness during the argument, I firmly told him that visiting had to be reciprocal and with some minutes of talking, I was able to convince him; thank God.

I have thought about why arguments like this tend to happen, or why some of our relationships experience harsh weathers and some or most of the time, it’s because one person thinks the other person is always going to be there, so we slack, don’t do what we should or say what we need to say…even when we know the other person just wants to hear it. It could be a word of appreciation, or saying “I’m sorry”, “I understand you”, “I forgive you”, “You are special to me”, “I’m happy I know you” and the hardest yet most abused one, “I love you”. Why I say that is because, we chant ‘I-love-you’s to friends but some of the time, it’s just a chant, not that we don’t mean it but we don’t act what we say. Do you know the funny part is that these are mostly three-worded statements and when this person’s call is not as regular as it used to be, we get worried and feel left out, then call to say “you forgot all about me” but the thing is we started the forgetting and we are just withdrawing the amount stated on the cheque, except in some other cases.

Let us not make that mistake of underestimating the presence of people in our lives, be it a friend or loved one because even if you are feeling like a hot shot now in the person’s life, there is always a substitute, well, I believe so. You are not the be-all-and-end-all of the person’s life, so why not take your position a little more as a privilege. We pray for long life but none of us is guaranteed tomorrow, we only hope for one and pray for many. So, say a prayer, hug that friend, kiss that sibling, and say something nice, no matter how small. Many nothings count for something. (Adenike Ajayi)

Live, love, breathe and do something extra this POSH Saturday.

Loads of love aristocrats…Have a great week ahead...xoxo.

GOT TO BREATHE

Hello every blue-blooded lady and gentleman out there. I’m super happy talking to you today- another POSH Saturday. Just in case you had a stressful week, which I also had, you’ve clicked the right link. Today’s topic is going to be about something seemingly mundane but it’s of very great importance and should be imbibed by every single aristocrat.

About two weeks ago, my mom and I went to the spa, she went first and when she got out, she gushed about how the spa attendant was very good at her job and that the facial she had was calming and so on. I had practically started imagining how I was going to sleep during my facial as well, but lo, I entered the room, lay down and listened to the calm music, thinking to myself, “even if I can’t sleep, this music would make me sleep”, the music sounded like one of those “Zen” songs. The facial was supposed to last for about 40 minutes or so but then, trying hard as I might, I didn’t sleep off and from what my mind told me, I had been there 15 minutes. I was so preoccupied with getting some rest and not thinking; that I thought myself out of not thinking let alone sleeping. After a little bit of anxiety, (I don’t remember what happened) I guess I stopped thinking or became “unconscious”, the next thing I heard was “don’t worry, you are still here” and I laughed. I actually felt good…I rested.

Apart from my experience painted above, do you normally set out a day or hour to rest and that time becomes the busiest yet, of your existence? You know most times, we overthink not-thinking that we end up overthinking and then we ask, “I was supposed to rest today, why is it that at the end of the day, I still feel so worn out?” I’ve recently discovered that the antidote to stress and the way to relax is by stopping your thought process especially the ones about how “sad” your life is at the moment. If you have a mind like mine, you may be thinking about a zillion things a minute, just that alone, is enough to stress you out and rob you of the rest you desire. Another thing is to be yourself and if you are like me again, there’s a tendency to overthink things- your words, your actions, even something as ordinary as ordering a shoe online. I’m not saying, just talk off the tip of your tongue or act like someone who’s not altogether, mentally…

I’m just saying, being a little more carefree is the best way to relax especially if you are tightly wound up. Don’t be so intense; it steals the joy of the simple from you. Things don’t have to be that hard.

We are over a thousand page views and counting, thanks a lot guys for making it possible, I hope to read from you pretty soon, I would like to read about some other views. Love you all for coming here to know what I think and most likely what you’ve thought about as well.

Remember to enjoy the moments and b-r-e-a-t-h-e. Have a POSH ARISTOCRATIC Saturday…xoxo